Father's Day is the best time to celebrate fatherhood and to thank our dads for all his efforts and sacrifices throughout the years. So if your father has been a good provider, a loving husband to your mom, and a caring dad to you and your siblings, you better think of some great ways on how you could give back the love he has showered you and the family over the years.
But, how about people, sons and daughters who grow up without a father? Do they still celebrate father's day? How do they feel every time the world pays tribute to the father of every home? I think I can answer those questions as I have never met my dad, not even once.
I was born without a biological father. He left us the moment he knew my mom was pregnant. He feared responsibilities and suddenly felt anxious about getting married. Since my father left us without even bidding goodbye, I didn't have the chance to meet him. I have no idea how he looks like, I knew nothing about him, except for his name, of course.
Since I was the first born in the family, all eyes were on me. I knew I was surrounded by amazing people whose caring hands helped me grow to whoever I am today. My grandparents, aunts, and uncles were always with my mom to support her all the way. I was reared in a family where love, compassion, and tender loving care reign. So despite the fact that I never hada a dad, I never felt alone and empty.
The unconditional love which my grandparents especially my grandfather gave me, was more than enough to make me experience paternal love. Their endless support and guidance were good enough to complete me and live life to the fullest.
This is how I celebrated Father's Day for more than three decades.
Celebrate with the world. Every time the world gives honor to fathers, I used to spend quality time with my mom and our relatives to celebrate this special day. For me, all of them were my fathers. I religiously did simple things that would surprise them - all I wanted was for them to feel loved and happy. I always hoped I could give back the favor and express my sincerest gratitude and appreciation.
I live my life as if father's days were spent every day. I see to it that they would be proud of me and my achievements. I looked into things positively, I never resented about anything or anyone in my life. I told to myself that being a 'no-father' daughter was still a blessing, perhaps the most challenging one.
Empower oneself. To all those 'no-father' sons and daughters out there, take it from me. Learn how to divert such situations into positive things. Take it as a strong force that will drive you to succeed and face life's struggles with faith and hope.
Every day is payback time. Let us show our 'fathers' how much we love them and value their love and support. Soon, you will have a family of your own and make sure you make a happy home.
Cheer up and enjoy life. Remember this: a family is not always composed traditionally by a mother and father.
Happy Father's Day!